Hello, and Happy Sunday everyone! It’s time for another Jasmine’s Journal post! Thank you for reading my last Jasmine’s Journal post if you did. Today I wanted to talk about the importance of being vulnerable, hence the title. I’m reading this book by Brené Brown called Daring Greatly. This book is about being vulnerable and how choosing to be vulnerable can change your life. I’m not finished reading it, but I really agreed with a lot of the things that Mrs. Brown said in her book that I’ve read, so some of my thoughts and opinions may reflect some of the ones in that book. If you like this post or are interested in learning from an expert about vulnerability, I really recommend picking up the book, and/or watching the TED Talk that Brené Brown did.
When you hear the word “vulnerable”, what do you think? A lot of us give this word a negative connotation. We think of being vulnerable as being weak, but the truth is vulnerability keeps us all interconnected. It’s the center, the nucleus, the heart of all of our relationships. If you go onto Twitter it’s almost guaranteed that you’ll see someone tweeted something like “I stopped caring a long time ago” or “By now, I’m used to the pain. I don’t give a f*** anymore”. If you saw something like this on Twitter, first of all, unfollow this person, you are just inviting unnecessary negativity into your life and lowering your spiritual vibration and you don’t need that. Especially if it’s as easy as pressing the unfollow button. When people tweet these types of things constantly, it’s almost as if they’re trying to prove to everyone that they just don’t care. Sometimes when I see the same person tweeting the same negative things (pre-unfollow), I just think you myself, “Are you trying to convince us or yourself that you don’t care.” The funny thing is, they do care. They are projecting out onto the world what they want people to think about them, but the truth is, doing that only projects their own insecurities.
So, what does it mean to be vulnerable anyway? To me, being vulnerable is opening yourself up to opportunities when you know that you could potentially get hurt physically or emotionally. Though my definition of being vulnerable may be seen as something bad, it doesn’t have to be. Think about your relationship with your parent(s), a significant other, and/or best friend. Those all require different levels of vulnerability. When your mom makes dinner for you, just you choosing to eat the dinner that she made for you is being vulnerable. God forbid, but how do you know that she didn’t poison your food? You don’t. But do you think about this every time you dig your fork and knife into your food? Of course, not! You trust that your mother has put every ounce of love and care possible into your food. Something as small as that can be considered being vulnerable. This is an opportunity for you to get hurt, but you still took it. We usually correlate vulnerability with sexual relationships such as a boyfriend or girlfriend. Vulnerability is so important in those types of relationships because as I said before, it keeps them connected. Having secrets and hiding things will only disconnect you from others and weaken the relationships.
You do not have to be completely vulnerable and transparent to everyone though. This increases the risk of you getting hurt. There are some people that you may or may not know of that will only take advantage of your vulnerability and use it against you. That’s why it’s important to have 1-3 people outside of your family that you can trust with anything. It’s okay to have a lot of friends and acquaintances, just do not be an open book with all of them.
I hope that you enjoyed this post. Vulnerability is something that I think is so important that all of us have and express in our daily lives. Please feel free to leave your thoughts on my post or on being vulnerable in general in the comments section below. Make sure you follow me on my social media accounts at the bottom of the post, as per usual. Have an amazing rest of your day!